Location is Belgium.

I stopped seriously riding my bike about 5 years ago. At the time, I used my bike for commuting to work for about 9 km one way. The main reason I stopped was because the timing and route of my commute brought me through various situations that I did not enjoy at all:

  1. My home is within 100 meters of a high school, and during my morning commute, I had to drive on a bidirectional bike lane which leads to this school. However, I rode away from the school right during the rush of students riding to the school. These students often drove side by side on this lane, while there was only barely enough room to comfortably pass each other on the lane. There were multiple times where I skimmed the shrubbery on the right side of the lane very closely, almost to the point of crashing into it.
  2. Midway through the commute, I had to drive on another bidirectional path with barely enough room for comfortable passing of oncoming traffic. However, in this case the non-street side was a foot deep open sewer with a lot of overgrowth on the other side. There were some places which had regular growths of hogweed at roughly handle height. Hogweed, for those unaware, is a plant that can cause inflammatory reactions if it comes into contact with the skin. The street side wasn't much better: there were a lot of parked cars, some parked so close to the lane that at times I had to swerve to avoid running into a side mirror. In addition, the lane was VERY poorly lit at night and even somehow had a sign partially obstructing it about halfway through. To top it all off, in order to get on this lane, I had to go through a bike tunnel under an elevated highway and take a 90° turn left, both sides of the bike lane obscured by the sides of the tunnel.
  3. About 500 meters before I arrived at work, I get to another bidirectional bike lane. this one was short, but it was a VERY curvy path where you can't go fast, it's again barely big enough for 2 bikes to pass each other, you can't see around corners because of a 2 meter high hedge on both sides and it's quite busy. I again had a few incidents with skimming or even landing in the hedge on the side because I had to evade an oncoming biker I didn't see coming.
  4. Along the entire path, there were a couple times I had to cross intersections with no traffic lights, some of them quite busy. I had 2 incidents at one of these intersections, one of which severe enough that my back wheel got bent out of shape and I had to bring my bike in for repairs.
  5. Finally, a lot of cyclists along this way were really driving quite dangerously. I've already mentioned the teenage cyclists driving side by side on a lane that isn't wide enough for that, but there are others: cyclists who don't use a light at night (though I sometimes made this mistake too) or actually a blindingly bright light; cyclists overtaking other cyclists on busy lanes; Cyclists that drive too close to the center of the lane to safely pass them; cyclists that are using their phone while cycling and aren't paying attention; Cyclists that cycle very slowly in a lane where you can't safely overtake them; Even people walking their dogs on the bicycle lane.

All of this and more at the time really gave me a whole lot of anxiety about cycling, in addition to the higher amount of stress I was already experiencing from working a day job that fit poorly with my autism. I already wasn't too keen on cycling and running into these problems on a daily basis really caused me panic, stress, anxiety and so on, to the point that almost exactly 5 years ago, I gave up on riding my bike to work and switched to public transport. Since then I only rode my bike recreationally, and even then only incidentally.

I don't plan on cycling again in the foreseeable future, but if I were to one day start cycling again, what can I do to reduce the chance that I run into these issues again?

  • Have you tried an air horn? :)
    – DavidW
    Aug 28, 2019 at 15:21
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    Sounds like the problem are the bicycle lanes. Are they mandatory bicycle lanes? Even if they are mandatory I wouldn’t use them if they are dangerous or otherwise unacceptable.
    – Michael
    Aug 29, 2019 at 7:47
  • You could use the SUV-approach: Get a bigger/wider bike, one of these tricycles with a cargo box e.g. Makes it harder to push you into the shrubs, and you can use it for shopping.
    – Erik
    Aug 29, 2019 at 10:37
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    When we cycle and drive (and walk) we SHARE the roads and paths with others. Learning defensive riding techniques is good for all road users. Assume anyone else on the road can do silly or unexpected things! :) Learn to observe and anticipate and change how you are riding if path is busy or narrow or you cannot see. It is like a game where if you are good you can predict all the things that happen. Ding a bell whenever you are near bend or corner you cannot see around. Defensive riding gives you control and makes the ride less stressful. Change route where possible to avoid problem sections.
    – gaoithe
    Aug 30, 2019 at 10:31
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    @jimchristie I understand why the question is closed. But it is a good question, it is a reasonably specific question ("how to deal with anxiety" infrastructure, other road users). Yes, the answer to this is quite broad, not easy to answer. It is a very relevant question though. I think there should be a place in the main section for questions like this.
    – gaoithe
    Aug 30, 2019 at 10:54

5 Answers 5


1 Avoid obstacles

There's not too much you can do about this. That school almost next to your home means you'll always be stuck in student-rush hour no matter what you do. Except maybe if you can go around the school area in a relatively small detour. Cycling on a quiet parallel road may be well worth the extra few 100 meters.

2 Be noticeable

Wear high visibility clothing (fluo vests, reflectors, clear lights when it's dark). Especially useful when the other cyclist isn't visible. At least they'll clearly SEE YOU and will evade you.

3 Loud bell

Get yourself a nice loud bicycle bell. One that you can hear from a couple houses away. Use that bell any time there's someone blocking your path, and use it early. Don't wait till you're right behind them. If you ring your bell early they should have just enough time to look behind them, see you and move out of the way when you reach them.

This one works really well if there's someone walking their dog. Given enough time they'll move their dog besides them and maybe force it to sit down, or at least in a position where they can safely keep the dog away from traffic. You might still have to slow down a bit to safely pass them.

  • Someone riding middle of the bike trail? -> ring your bell
  • 2 people riding side by side not leaving room for you to pass? -> ring your bell
  • pedestrian not really looking taking up too much space? -> ring your bell
  • someone driving unsafe with cell phone that you can't pass -> ring your bell

Moreover ringing before a turn with no visibility is the only way to make your presence known without a mirror or stopping. (This is actually the main and intended use of car horns in a lot of countries)

Most of the times (sadly not 100%) they'll make room for you to pass safely when they hear a loud bell ringing.

4 Plan for slowdowns

You mentioned autism. A lot of your anxiety might come from not being able to ride at your expected pace to deal with those "unsafe" situations. If you plan on slowing down at least 10 times during your ride, some of those close to a standstill, and leave enough time to arrive at your destination in time it might take most of that anxiety away. (Note: I don't have autism myself and have only a bit of experience with coworkers/family members on the spectrum, not sure if this hint really works for you).

5 Get used to cycling in calm situations first

Instead of forcing yourself on a fixed hour to get to work in time. Try going to a grocery store in the weekend on a bike to get some minor supplies. You can plan this small trip on a slow hour when you know there'll be few obstacles. If you can't get used to the short bike trips that way, you're probably better of using public transport instead.

Final note

Although most people on this stack will likely not agree with this statement I still think it's true for certain people:

There's nothing wrong with not riding a bike.

I have an uncle that never learned to ride a bike. He always got everywhere he needed and is happy that way. If you don't like riding your bike then don't ride your bike. Public transport in Belgium is usually good enough (although not optimal) to commute to work and even do grocery shopping or visit family members.


You might actually be better on the roadway as, by the sounds of it, the paths are fairly useless for commuting (as opposed to just recreation). Usually junctions will be in favour of the through traffic, rather than a cycle crossing, so I find the risk to be lower on the road than using inappropriate (for a fast commuter) bike infrastructure. Of course, you now have to deal with traffic, but it is likely to be overall better, especially in a relatively bike-savvy country.

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    I don't know about your last sentence... My experience cycling in the Netherlands was that drivers didn't react well to cyclists (shock, horror) on the road.
    – DavidW
    Aug 28, 2019 at 15:45
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    @DavidW Well indeed, as I said, you have to deal with traffic. Overall, as a faster cyclist with a goal in mind (in this case, get to work within X minutes) then I find the road better. No "shared use" pavements with bus stops/light poles in the middle, no inexplicable path endings, more favourable light timings, fewer stops, better sight lines etc... I'll use and enjoy a good cycle track when available, but not when it's a (subjectively) worse experience.
    – awjlogan
    Aug 28, 2019 at 20:45
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    @DavidW Also, NL paths are so much better than almost anywhere in the world, so there's less reason to use the road there. While Belgium is not so good infrastructure wise, people there are at least aware that others ride bikes..!
    – awjlogan
    Aug 28, 2019 at 20:49

There's not a whole lot that you as an individual can do to improve the condition of a road or to change the behavior of other cyclists, motorists, or pedestrians in the short term. The most effective thing you can do is to try to avoid such situations. I've found that particularly for urban biking, it's very worthwhile to become familiar with different potential routes between your origin and destination. The most direct route may not be the safest or least stressful, so you should consider longer alternatives on less busy or better designed roads. It's unfortunate, but most of the issues you mention are completely out of your control, so all you can really do is avoid them.


I think I can distil your question down to two points:

  • Some of the routes you need to cycle on have paths or intersections that are unfriendly for cyclists.
  • You are not comfortable cycling in situations where you are close to other cyclists or there is not very much room.

You can try to avoid paths, roads or intersections that are unfriendly to cyclists. There are many tools for cycling route planning. Google maps in cycling mode, Strava, Komoot etc.

Cycling in crowded places, proximity of other cyclists, kerbs, walls or hedges may be something you just need to get used to in an urban environment. however, I get the impression you are you are always trying to get out of the way of other cyclists who are crowding your lane. Perhaps you need to be a bit more aggressive in possessing your right of way. Get a nice loud bicycle bell and use it to signal to other cyclists coming the other way that they need to yield to you. Don't swerve to avoid oncoming cyclists, instead slow down or stop and make them go around you.

Also, getting a good quality set of lights with a powerful headlight (500 lumens at least) will help you navigate poorly lit areas.


Maintain your lane position and let others get out of your way

I say this from experience riding a small motorcycle in heavy (motorcycle) traffic in South East Asia. It is always safest to maintain the correct road/path position. Slow down or even stop if necessary, but do not move from your correct position. Being predictable allows others to anticipate and avoid you. If you do this enough times on the same route, the teenagers should eventually get the message too.

As for the intersections, this is more difficult as there may be real danger from cars. I can only advise to become comfortable with extreme caution and waiting for many minutes until it is safe. Once again it is good to maintain a position that shows you intend to cross.

Finally, everything gets better with experience. After a year of riding daily in heavy traffic, I am getting more comfortable.

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    I like your point about maintaining possition, but would advice highly to add a loud bell to make sure the other cyclist actually notice you. Otherwise they might still crash into you even if you make a full stop.
    – Imus
    Aug 29, 2019 at 7:53
  • If somebody is in direct danger of colliding with you, yell at them. This is much more effective than any bell: bells cause people to go "Huh, what's that noise? What's going on?"; yelling causes them to go "S***! I need to do something, now!" Aug 29, 2019 at 10:12

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