I'm not a fitting expert but some common conceptions about flared bars (in a road bike context) are that riding on the hoods is more aerodynamic and the flare brings your arms in beyond the bar's total width. Wider drops are meant to give you better control on descents, so that compensates the reduced width that is often seen with flared bars these days: tucked in and aero in the hoods, stable handling in the (wide) drops. 

I just found a video by Salsa themselves and the 46 cm Woodchipper is by the widest you can get with their lineup: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfXNDxBGHN8

Perhaps, going with relatively wide 46 cm bars and lots of flare and drop angle is just too wide for your natural body position? I didn't do the math but couldn't it be that wide bars with flare just gave you approximately the same hood position as on 42/44 non-flare bar while the extreme drops are just too wide for your taste and you would be better off with something less extreme, like a smaller version of the same bar or something with less flare and/or drop angle? Salsa apparently offers a Cowchipper with less drop angle but pretty much the same flare (24/25°) 

On my road bike, I'm not on the hoods when it gets technical, so maybe you should also adjust your riding style a bit and the stability you look for on the hoods is better to be found in the drops?